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Nov. 10th, 2004 | 02:11 pm

Ok, so I went to see eleni mandell last night and she was really good (as always).

I was supposed to go with sapience but she had been laid low by whatever everyone is getting so I went by myself.

When I'm really paying attention to music it's really hard for me to not dance, sway, or in some other way move with the music, which led to an interesting event last night.

I was half dancing in the corner, when some guy came up and said, "hey you look like someone who'd really like to dance but doesn't want to be the only one." With a lead in like that I had to go dance with him. We ended up periodically chatting about dancing and music for the rest of the evening. He even seemed kind of fun and maybe i should've gotten some contact information.

The other clever idea is by going to these straight places and getting flirted with, maybe I can learn how to flirt with women myself. So far I've reacted well to guys where were being cheery and pleasant.

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Aluta Corinthiaca Sumptuosa

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from: dragonblink
date: Nov. 10th, 2004 04:43 pm (UTC)

Dude, that is probably one of the best conversation openers I've heard in a long time. It's goin' in my mental list of "Ideas To Steal From Other People".

Maybe I should pull a Jane Goodall and observe people flirting too ...

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 10th, 2004 07:09 pm (UTC)

Yes, this guy was really good at it without triggering any of my feeling creeped out vibes.

Though I did realize afterward that another common conversational starter, is "do you have an accent?" as a way of getting someone to talk about where they're from. It sounds like your interested and for most people in LA, they're from somewhere else.

I should either observe people more, or take the advice of some of my friends and actually try going up to women and talking to them. They claim that this strategy works for them.

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from: migaz
date: Nov. 12th, 2004 05:33 am (UTC)

If you had thought "he is a man, I won't dance with him" you may stayed alone the rest of the show.

If this man became obsessed with is sexual orientation (presuming he "was" "strait") and wanted only to pick you up, probably it wouldn't feel as fun for both. He would be too pushy.

Sometimes don't clinging to this boxed ideas work better for those involved.

I think maybe that works also with flirting. If you set yourself on flirting you may force things too much, act pushy with yourself. Must flirt must flirt.

If you just act as things happen it might work better, to take the pressure off on yourself and things may flow. Sometimes we try to hard because we fix our heads on something too much. And something natural, easy, flowing gets lost somehow.

(Just a thought, though. What do I know?)

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Experienced Interaction

from: dilinger
date: Nov. 12th, 2004 08:12 am (UTC)

I second migaz thoughts. Some experiences just happen, others you bring about by your own action or inaction.

(I wish I could spell) :)

I guess what I am trying to say is let people in, and try not to value a book by its cover. Bad ones often have flashy covers and good ones can be very drab on the outside. Bad ones can become good friends and resources and good ones can also be good friends and resources.

It may also be important for you to remember who you are and what you want. Perhaps you have a Daria personality over her Sisters cheerleader personality. Be who you are and try not to cross over into uncomfortable territory. You can bend a little either way but but in the end it is better to be true to yourself. Granted there is something to be said about honey attracting more bee's then sugar. (is that right, well you know what I mean, I hope)


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