Diane Trout (alienghic) wrote,
Diane Trout
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Appearance

I was talking with a friend about attraction and how I feel like I radiate a "whatever you do, don't be attracted to me" aura. She pointed out that I do look like someone who doesn't spend that much effort my appearance. For instance, I dress badly, my hair is frizzy and not well cut, I slump pulling myself inwardly. I look like someone who doesn't like their body. She suggested that being sexually attractive comes from someone being grounded in their physicality. (Does that mean comfortable with having a body?)

I've been taking small steps toward presenting myself better. The first thing was to lose weight. Another was a friend took me shopping and I got some better clothes, although I could use some more.

After talking to my friend, there are other things I could do. Such as I could take better care of my hair. I prefer longer hair, even though it can be annoying since it's hot and falls in my face when I lean forward. My friend thought getting my hair cut to shoulder length would look good, although after seeing some pictures of me with short hair she also thought it would also look good on me. (Though since both my mother prefers short hair, and my own history I'm biased against it. And since she's your typical punky short-haired lesbian she's probably biased toward short hair.)

Anyone who knows me have a preference for hair length? And does anyone have recommendations for hair stylists in the pasadena area?

One of the things I don't like about my body is I feel like I don't have much of a hip-to-waist ratio, however there is a solution--it's called a corset. Getting one would make me feel like I'm selling out to fashion, but then ignoring my body to stay focused on the realm of pure reason hasn't been that effective of a strategy for attracting anyone I'm interested in for a sexual/romantic relationship. (It works great for friendship, but that's it.)

(Oh yes, and for all of my friends who've been trying to beat this into my head, perhaps the answer to why I haven't attracted anyone is that I look like someone who doesn't think they're attractive.)
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