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Aug. 20th, 2002 | 11:57 pm

My mother called me to remind me that one of my cousins was getting married soon. Since I failed to open the invite, I learned that it was this weekend on saturday, which conflicts with one of my role playing game group.

I think one of the reasons I ignored it is I just find dealing with other people entering relationships depressing. And since I just finished talking with a caltech undergrad about their current relationship issues, I'm feeling a bit depressed. (Thankfully my anxiety about telling a boss, no you can't have that code by your unreasonable deadline, is overriding the depression).

I think that I lack some of the basic skills that allow one to get involved with relationships such as: calling people who seem that they might be interested, finding time to get to know them, pacing the process of revealing increasing levels of personal information, actually finding real people interesting and attractive, being comfortable with the idea that someone could like me, and not find myself horribly ugly & repulsive.

But mostly I'm annoyed that I have to back out of an event with friends to go deal with an annoying hetero-ritutual.

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Clare T. Rampling

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from: rampling
date: Aug. 21st, 2002 01:17 am (UTC)
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Pffff! I happen to know you can do the stuff you mention in paragraph four. Not perfectly, but who can? Pffff!

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Aug. 21st, 2002 11:50 pm (UTC)
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Out of curiosity do you mean paragraph 4, backing out of previous fun comittments to go do ones socital duties, or paragraph 3, developing relationships takes time and effort and the starting phases feel inherently awkward?

And further I'm not sure I can figure out what "Pffff" means in that context.

(So instead of feeling offended 'cause I jumped to the wrong conclusion, I decided to ask for clarification first.)

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Clare T. Rampling

Whups!

from: rampling
date: Aug. 22nd, 2002 09:30 am (UTC)
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Yeah, you're right, I did mean paragraph 3. Dunno what went wrong; oh well. And the Pffff is a skeptical Pffff. More info later if needed; gotta run now.

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Diane Trout

Re: Whups!

from: alienghic
date: Aug. 22nd, 2002 03:32 pm (UTC)
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Yes, I think mostly I'm moving out of the feeling of hopless despair about dating and am learning what the actual issues that are causing problems.

Meeting new people takes energy, feels awkward, and can use noticable chunks of time. Not to mention my tendency to be rather paranoid and lose interest if anything seems incompatable. For instance I'd just immediately discount someone who was a practicing catholic.

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