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Nov. 14th, 2001 | 11:15 pm

So here I am offering advice to teenage girls about their relationships. This has happened to me in several other situations as well. In some the cases they're even pretty obvious about wanting advice.

You'd think that to have a respect opinion on some subject you'd actually have to be good at it. Or maybe I actually do know what I'm doing except for the whole finding someone who's sufficiently interesting.

Maybe that's my problem, most people I meet who are of the right orientation and gender, either don't have a rich enough intellectual life for me to not find them boring, or are too emotionally unstable for me to feel safe around.

What a new concept, blaming the universe for presenting me with poor choices instead of blaming myself.

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K Lee

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from: jumbledbean
date: Nov. 14th, 2001 11:36 pm (UTC)
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I'm sorry if I was pushy or anyting I didn't think I was being pushy but if this isn't about me then please disregard

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Freya

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from: moonglade
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 04:10 pm (UTC)
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Oh I think she just feels that maybe she isn't the best person to give advice. She is probably happy to do so or to help how she can. :)

I'm sure she has more experience of the important things than she might realise, and *everyones* experiences are different of course.

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K Lee

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from: jumbledbean
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 05:52 pm (UTC)
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yeah I love to get advice from anywhere I can :o)

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 06:48 pm (UTC)
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Thank you for interpreting what I said. :)

And yes, I probably don't give myself enough credit for being a thoughtful observant person whose learned from my experiences.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 06:47 pm (UTC)
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Moonglade is right, I was just assuming that I wasn't a good person to offer advice on relationships as most of my relationships have gone bad. So I was feeling a bit insecure about offering my observations.

On the other hand I'm pretty sure that our society provides people unrealistic expectations about relationships and isn't really that good at teaching people how to have good relationships.

It's all about trying to figure out what the unspoken expectations are for the people in the relationship and to figure out how to talk about them and make sure that they match up. Or at least that's my current theory.

Of course finding a chance to apply this in my own life... that seems harder.

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K Lee

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from: jumbledbean
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 07:53 pm (UTC)
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I'm soo glad you gave advice. Like I had said any advice is good I've had soo many relationships go bad and I mean badddddd. Too many damn little assholes that cheat

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 16th, 2001 12:17 am (UTC)
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Thanks.:) In case you hadn't noticed I sometimes worry too much.

I've had things go bad too, though my problem tends to be with people who are emotionally unavailable, and just aren't capable of dealing with too much emotion.

Though maybe insensitive and self-absorbed is kind of like asshole?

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K Lee

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from: jumbledbean
date: Nov. 16th, 2001 06:31 am (UTC)
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I worry alll the time I think that might just be one of my issues ya know? Also I don't drink or smoke or nothing heh

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 21st, 2001 12:33 am (UTC)
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Have you ever caught yourself worring about worrying?

Or even worse, once I even managed to worry because I wasn't worrying.

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K Lee

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from: jumbledbean
date: Nov. 21st, 2001 12:41 am (UTC)
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I know right. yeah I've caught myself like that before but htings are better now

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Stephanie Wukovitz

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from: sebab
date: Nov. 15th, 2001 06:30 am (UTC)
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it's also a lot easier to have perspective about someone else's life than one's own :)

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