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Nov. 22nd, 2005 | 07:41 pm
mood: annoyedannoyed

This being the holiday season, and holidays being times that people traditionally spend time with their family, I find myself more frequently having to deal with my mother. (My father has long since disappeared from my life, after I managed to force him to stop procrastinating on a removing his name from my old car by threatening to show up on his doorstep).

I've mentioned my current girlfriend to my mother, and really the only question she's asked me is "if it's serious?". Last night this led to her telling me that she didn't want to meet some string of various people. This really bugged me, everything that I currently know about relationships is that you need to date several people so you can learn both how to actually be in a relationship, and also what personality meshes well with your own.

I still talk to her out of a sense of duty, but any time I start to reveal anything about my own life I end up feeling like we're living in two mutually-unintelligible universes.
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Rae

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from: curlyhairedimp
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:03 am (UTC)
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That really sucks that you're not able to mesh with your own birth family... Have a good holiday with your chosen family!

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 08:19 pm (UTC)
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Thanks. I periodically feel like I should try to work out the issues between us, but it seems like too much work.

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Bolowolf

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from: bolowolf
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 04:34 pm (UTC)
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Oh can I relate to feeling like families are living in mutually-unintelligible universes. I told my sister the other week I wouldn't be going to her house for Thanksgiving because I feel so different...there isn't much to talk about. This is generally a bigger problem with my oldest sister and her family. Soulspirals and I were told that there were certain things that we were not allowed to talk about while at my oldest sister's house...things like the war, going to protests, etc. It essentially left nothing to talk about.

For a long time I felt obligated to talk to my family...particularly my dad. Now I just realize that they're people I know and keep them sort of on my outer circle. The feeling of obligation or duty is less and it seems to work out okay that way.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 08:26 pm (UTC)
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I can totally relate, my mother and I have slowly worked out the set of safe topics, mostly I politely listen to her talk about work and the health problem of the week.

I can talk to her about peak oil, because that fits in nicely with the apocalyptic christian world view we grew up with, but the rest of politics just creates insoluble arguments.

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[you'll find a light, find a friend, find a way]

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from: artemii
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 06:58 pm (UTC)
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as you probably already know, i can relate, too.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 23rd, 2005 08:34 pm (UTC)
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What I want to know is how people can look at the same world and come to such radically different conclusions about it.

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Dilinger

Easy

from: dilinger
date: Dec. 1st, 2005 05:25 pm (UTC)
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They ignore the facts!
:P

Or maybe they just bend them to fit their world view.

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Dilinger

Re: Easy

from: dilinger
date: Dec. 1st, 2005 05:50 pm (UTC)
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To expand on this a little.

I saw show on the history channel Called banned from the bible.

It is a bunch of books that were excluded from the bible but basicly talk about the same material and written in almost the same way around the same time as the others were written. Some a little later. It was awesome.

And they try to give us a hard time about Evolution. ha ha ha

http://store.aetv.com/html/product/index.jhtml?id=73144

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Diane Trout

Re: Easy

from: alienghic
date: Dec. 8th, 2005 07:15 am (UTC)
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Some of the biblical scholars have pointed out the stories of moses are actually 2 different versions woven together. There's moses as political leader, and moses as magician.

have you seen the skeptics annotated bible?

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