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Oct. 2nd, 2005 | 11:36 pm

I managed to get invited to a large libra birthday party for a bunch of women, including people like sapience helensmind79 (stacyjill managed to beam in via ichat), there was also ladyfrancesca who I met once before, and she managed to recognize me. (Pretty much if someone changes anything about them I can't recognize them, Yep dying your hair is enough to make me go, huh, that person looks vaguely familiar.)

I think there are more LJ users but I don't know them (Though I suppose if I go trolling through peoples friends lists I might find them).

I felt out of place and didn't really know how to participate, and yet, when I left there were so many people I wanted to say good-bye to. I usually have little idea to say at large parties, one of my longest conversations was listening to one acquaintance who was going through chemotherapy. Yet I'm glad I went and saw everyone.

There's this awkward phase for people who are on the cusp between acquaintances and friends that's really hard to deal with. The only way that I know of how to deal with it is to try to power through it and continue spending time with them by trying to learn about what more personal thoughts are shareable.

After I wondered if I'd do better around people if I stopped filling my head with tales of how the world is ending with something a bit more pleasant.

(And now for some free association, since memories and thoughts are maintained by repetition, I've wondered if reading depressing news makes me more likely to obsess about various apocalypses as the negative information reinforces the brain chemistry that creates my negative outlook. This is one reason why I'm trying to force myself to read stories about constructing more positive futures.)

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adrienne

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from: sapience
date: Oct. 3rd, 2005 08:02 am (UTC)
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1) it was great to see you. i only wish i could concentrate better at parties so we could've talked more. smaller gathering soon, okay?

2) your gf is awesome--that list!! looks like a keeper to me. :)

3) why don't you try going an entire week without reading/watching/listening to any news whatsoever? Completely disengage from the media. Maybe you'd get a glimpse of what it could be like.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Oct. 5th, 2005 07:11 am (UTC)
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Yes I'd like to see you. Uhm, looks at schedule, some times perhaps I actually am busy. Tomorrow I should work on my character for my RPG game on thursday, friday I get to see my girlfriend, I may have time on saturday, and sunday I'm playing board games.

I think she's awesome too. All hail the mighty internet for connecting introverted geeks.

Can I read happy positive news? I read about current research into happiness from slashdot and am currently chewing through Authentic Happiness

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adrienne

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from: sapience
date: Oct. 5th, 2005 07:27 am (UTC)
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Hmm, you're not free this week, and I'm not free at all this weekend, so it'll have to be next week, then.

And, no, you can't read "happy, positive" news, either. I follow a couple of happy news feeds, and there are always references to negative things within them, or what one person considers good news is actually sometimes frightening.

Go one week entirely media-free. You can switch to just positive news the next week, and make a comparison. Actually, maybe you should try the week of positive news first. Cleanse the palate a bit.

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Dilinger

Reality vs Perception

from: dilinger
date: Oct. 4th, 2005 01:25 pm (UTC)
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On Npr they have been reading from a project called. (this I believe) I'm not 100% sure the name is right but it is along those lines.

In either case they have read this letter from a person Who is very religious, and also gay. He tried not to be gay for a long time and even as other gay friends/aquantances were being forced out of his religous groups he tried to maintain thinking he was cursed and God didn't love him.

Then one day he decided he would believe differently. He started to be happy. (so says he)

I think we both know many people who went through a long period of religous indoctrination and came out with differnt views the then the doctrinators. (is that a word? it made me laugh so it stays) So does repetition help with memory? Sure, does it change who you are? It doesn't appear so.
The question you have to ask is does it serve you? Can we the non govermentment people really do anything about the killer meteor? If enough of us got to gether we could do something about global warming without the government, but I think it would take the formation of something similar to government to do. We can do our part, but everyone else has to do thier part also. But I digress, If you like people and everytime you are around them you bum them out, you may need to keep your apocolypse to yourself. You know how we wish those religous people would. I get many strange views myself when I say I can't wait for $4 dollar plus gasoline. :)
My asthma hasn't been this bad since 91.

I think people should have the right to Smoke & Drink, but I don't think they should smoke around children. I don't think they should be allowed to get drunk around children.

I ramble. Sorry.

How about this, your a complex program. You can change your outward looking interface to match those around you. Does this mean your being false. No, it just means your not showing everything all at once. No reason to show a non-programmer how you tick they won't appreciate it. Wait for someone to try and decode you by asking the right questions. Then you can respond with the correct or incorrect answers depending on what you want.

Peace!

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Diane Trout

Re: Reality vs Perception

from: alienghic
date: Oct. 5th, 2005 07:12 am (UTC)
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Did you get much exposure to cognitive therapy when you were in school? It looks like its really effective at treating depression. And mostly it involves convincing people to change how the think about new experiences.

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