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Sep. 12th, 2004 | 02:54 am

Went to a party tonight, there were many cute queer women, and I was nearly frozen with insecurity. I wore the other corset and a skirt and was told that I looked very good, and yet, no matter what I do, I can't convince myself to feel any confidence.

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from: musicwomyn
date: Sep. 12th, 2004 10:09 am (UTC)
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It's not about convincing yourself. It's about seeing yourself as the confident, sexy person you are. Envision it in as much detail as possible (what you look like, what you're wearing, what you're saying, what you sound like, etc.) and feel totally joyous about it. See it as a science experiment.

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from: alienghic
date: Sep. 12th, 2004 01:34 pm (UTC)
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my first reaction with an exercise like that is to visualize myself the way I wish I could be, which involves me being 40-50 pounds thinner.

It seems like no matter how much weight I lose I still think that I'm too fat to like myself.

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from: musicwomyn
date: Sep. 13th, 2004 08:37 am (UTC)
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"Your Inner Being would want you to manifest everything that you
decide that you want. Your Inner Being would want you to know
that you have value and the ability to have or be or do anything.
Your Inner Being would want you to fulfill every wish and whim
that you could identify."

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Sep. 14th, 2004 09:42 pm (UTC)
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Mostly my inner being would like to be heard above my inner critic.

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from: musicwomyn
date: Sep. 14th, 2004 11:14 pm (UTC)
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Yes, AND your inner cynic

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Sep. 15th, 2004 12:16 am (UTC)
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"The cynic too! Ah, that almost seems too much of my miserable familiarity to loose at once", she said in a ironic self-teasing kind of way.

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The Goddess (Obey The Mother Goddess)

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from: alejandromagno
date: Sep. 14th, 2004 01:24 pm (UTC)
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Oh, D., I wish I could give you big hugs right now.

One day you'll see how incredible you really are.

Until then, I am your self-appointed "chorus." I'm going to keep telling you how adorable, beautiful, and splendid you are, honey, until you can tell yourself these things and hold that good and shining image in your mind always.

Hey! Did you get my message/post about the party this Saturday? It should be really, really fun.

And speaking objectively, if you were to lose 40-50 pounds, or even much more than what you've already shed, you'd be VERY ill.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Sep. 15th, 2004 12:24 am (UTC)
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Yes, objectively I know that I can't lose that much weight safely, that doesn't mean I don't wish I was that much smaller, preferably lost as an overall shrinkage of bone diameter, rib cage size, etc.

At this party one of my friends commented that both of the members of one of the couples was hot. I'd knew that one of them was, but the other I'd never realized that someone might think of her as being hot.

The most likely reason is because she has observable body fat. (it's not that she's overweight, it's more that she's not extremely lean).

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