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Nov. 11th, 2003 | 11:39 pm
mood: anxiousanxious

Cute activist didn't show up to lesbian chat tonight so I didn't get to see how she's doing since sunday night. Then they talked about flirting and sex, two things I'm pretty pathetic at.

As a result I'm feeling lonely and isolated–that my destiny is to be unloved.

The other odd observation I had was although I'm rather sexually repressed the partners I've had have usually been some mix of polyamoury, bisexuality, and into S&M. Basically a collection of people exceedingly comfortable with their sexuality.

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Josh

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from: irilyth
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 08:58 am (UTC)
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Is it at all useful to hear other people talk about things you're no good at? I sometimes find that it is, at least if the conversation is at a level where I can understand, and perhaps even go "huh, I should try that / keep that in mind / whatever".

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 09:27 am (UTC)
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If it's done with sensitivity...

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Josh

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from: irilyth
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 09:28 am (UTC)
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Does the lesbian chat group tend to be insensitive?

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 12:51 pm (UTC)
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Were you asking in a roundabout way why I'm going to a group where they tend to talk about stuff I have trouble dealing with?

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Josh

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from: irilyth
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 01:58 pm (UTC)
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Not really... I think that makes a lot of sense: If you have trouble dealing with something, confronting it in a friendly setting can be a good way to get better at dealing with it. If you never try to deal with it, you'll never be able to deal with it, right? So in my original question, I was wondering if you had thought of it that way.

When you mentioned insensitivity, that made me wonder if you saw the lesbian chat group as insensitive, i.e. not "a friendly setting".

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from: musicwomyn
date: Nov. 12th, 2003 10:33 am (UTC)
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Talking about flirting and sex at lesbian chat for a change...lol. They need to think of something else besides dating, how to pick up girls, and sex. There was a time when we actually used to talk about cool things.

Ah sexual repression. I think I was there for a good portion of my lesbian chat days. I just faked not being so, very well :) Sometimes faking sexual confidence makes us sexually confident. Then again, sometimes it just takes time. I was a virgin (pretty much) for much of my lesbian chat years despite my overt flirtation and make-out sessions with everyone.

I sense you are getting more and more comfortable with yourself and other people. Don't beat yourself up too much about the sexual repression thing (though, I know you like to).

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