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Aug. 31st, 2003 | 01:26 pm

I learned about one lesbian who claims to be more comfortable in a sexual relationship than an emotional one. Somehow that seems to me that's more common among people I know.

I'm not that comfortable with sex (or other body related things) and far more comfortable processing emotions.

I wonder if that's one of the reasons it's so hard for me to date people.

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secretslip

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from: secretslip
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 01:43 pm (UTC)
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Just the use of the word "processing" confirms to me that you think of yourself as a computer, not a person.

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T e s s

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from: soulsong
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 01:51 pm (UTC)
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Aye, the whole 'processing emotions' bit strikes me as a bit of an oxymoron.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 02:02 pm (UTC)
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it may be oxymoronic, but it's an expression I didn't come up with. It's common among psychologists and people doing consensus and other group things (at least here in LA).

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T e s s

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from: soulsong
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 02:12 pm (UTC)
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Thing is, you dont seem to be comfortable 'processing emotions' at all, though you claim the opposite. Or maybe you're comfortable processing them, but not experiencing them.

Bottom line is, your posts on this subject leave me feeling that you're disconnected. It's all so chillingly dispassionate and robotic.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 02:22 pm (UTC)
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Or maybe you're comfortable processing them, but not experiencing them.

I'm not sure. One of the odder things about me is how analytic the language I use to describe my feelings is. But that's partially the result of many years of therapy and self analysis. It's harder to answer the question of do I experience my feelings based on my writing.

How would one tell if one is experiencing ones feelings?

Though it is true that if I experience a strong emotion I try to discover what might've caused the feeling.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 01:54 pm (UTC)
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Actually "processing your feelings" it's a common expression from therapy and consciousness raising groups.

(Try googling for "processing your feelings" or "processing your emotions" and see what I mean.)

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Jen

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from: jadine
date: Aug. 31st, 2003 04:36 pm (UTC)
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I think you would mesh well with my sweetie sar_anon- zie is more interested in emotions than sex, and has some interesting thoughts on gender(queer) issues and body image as well.

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