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Jul. 31st, 2003 | 12:27 am

is it too much to ask for someone to be there when I hit an emotional land mine and hold me while I cry?

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Bolowolf

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from: bolowolf
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 07:16 am (UTC)
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Absolutely not.

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from: musicwomyn
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 09:53 am (UTC)
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It's not too much to ask, but many people can't handle it. It's hard to find people these days who will just hold you and not tell you what to do, or freak out.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 10:03 am (UTC)
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I think one of the big reasons my last girlfriend broke up with me was because when emotionally traumatized I wanted to be held and both components, expressing my emotions and wanting her to be there for me freaked her out.

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Clare T. Rampling

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from: rampling
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 10:12 am (UTC)
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If you're referring to what I think you're referring to, no. That's not it.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 11:34 am (UTC)
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Even though explained multiple times I never understood.

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from: musicwomyn
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 10:13 am (UTC)
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That's my fear, too, that my partner will leave me if I emotionally break down. K was there for me at times, but there were certain things she couldn't understand and never will, and I think she may have even resented me for having those issues. Open communication does help, but sometimes a moderator is needed (couple's counselor) to help facilitate. I think sometimes people take it personally when someone close to them breaks down. They might think that they caused or it or blame themselves for not being able to fix the problem

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antiopa

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from: antiopa
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 10:55 am (UTC)
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No. Absolutely not. Speaking as someone who often finds herself asking the exact same question.

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from: ohnerustung
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 04:02 pm (UTC)
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Depends on how well you know them. If they don't know you only in passing or if you have unrequited feelings for them, then it is too much to ask, because it will make them uncomfortable.

If you are good friends, then it's more than reasonable.

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from: poetrybuff_79
date: Jul. 31st, 2003 06:36 pm (UTC)
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No. But 99% of the world won't do it and frankly, I wouldn't let 99% of the world do it for me. I've only let one person in my life see me really cry, and hold me while I do it. Tears flip people out, in my experience.

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