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Jul. 15th, 2003 | 07:28 pm

A friend was trying to be helpful and suggest that maybe I could feel better if I had help going shopping for some clothes. She suggested going with some other friends who are more knowledgeable about styles for larger women. They might be able to be supportive and provide more accurate opinions than what ever I see when I look at myself.

I managed to resist pointless arguing with her.

I'm depressed now. I was reminded of my body, which makes me feel monstrous.

I want to curl up in a small ball and cry for a while.

The merest reminder of my body leads me unerringly to despair, and people think there might be something that could be done to change this?

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velcrocat

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from: velcrocat
date: Jul. 15th, 2003 10:43 pm (UTC)
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it's a really good idea! i think you should try it :)

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jul. 15th, 2003 11:10 pm (UTC)
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Try which, crying for a while or finding a way to change.

Crying is certainly easier, as it's quite clear how one goes about that.

It's really unclear to me how to stop being so easily depressed by reminders of my physical existence. I've been struggling with this issue for most of my life.

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Usqueba

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from: usqueba
date: Jul. 15th, 2003 11:22 pm (UTC)
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They might be able to be supportive and provide more accurate opinions than what ever I see when I look at myself.

I hate clothes shopping. It's SO depressing.

My friend and I go shopping together for a few reasons. First, I talk her out of not buying stuff. She rationalizes why she shouldn't buy things ("I should be saving this money"), even if she Really Likes it or has come to the store for that particular item(s). I don't like trying on clothes, cause I think I look like a dork in anything (except for jeans and t-shirt). She knows "my style" and can give a more objective opinion - she's my fashion consultant! Finally, even if you don't find anything, it's a social outing.

So what's my point to this blathering? GO shopping w/ some friends. Now! Go! :-)

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jul. 15th, 2003 11:32 pm (UTC)
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I worry that I'd be too trying to go shopping with, as I can't imagine anything looking good on me, and as a result there's a good chance that I'll break down crying. (And I worry that dealing with that might be asking to much for someone.)

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Usqueba

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from: usqueba
date: Jul. 15th, 2003 11:48 pm (UTC)
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I worry that I'd be too trying to go shopping with

I know I'm a pain in the ass to go shopping with ::g:: This is how I know M is my true friend. She puts up with me on shopping trips ("Ewww! That has *flowers* on it!" "That's WAY too girly"). If it weren't for her, all my clothes would be blue or green (well, almost).

as I can't imagine anything looking good on me,

This is where trust and the right friend comes in. Example: My mom ::grrrr:: would tell me I looked good in anything just so we could get the hell out of the store. My sister ::grrrr:: would say I looked good in some style SHE approved of. My other sister ::D'oh:: would say, "I dunno". M can look at me and say, "No, I don't like how that looks on you" or "yeah, that color looks good on you", etc.

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