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Jun. 11th, 2003 | 12:33 am

Instead of sitting around moping and feeling sorry for myself I thought I'd go to the lesbian chat group and spend some time with some actual queer women. Unfortunatly none of the people that I have any chance of connecting with were there, leaving me feeling even more distant, alienated, and hopeless.

I then managed to come up with an even more depressing thought. I had been wondering what I could do to be perceived as more attractive, but currently I feel like there's little point. It's not like I'm going to meet someone that I find attractive who's avaiable and interested in me. (The people I'm attracted to seem to be exceedingly rare.)

Dating sucks for straight people... and is worse for every else.

(Well, at least I get to see jen tomorrow... a lesbian who likes role playing games. She, of course, is already in a committed long term monogamous relationship. But it's nice to be reminded that I'm not the only geeky queer woman.)

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Josh

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from: irilyth
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 06:43 am (UTC)
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Dating sucks for straight people... and is worse for every else.

Is that a comforting thought? I'd think it might be: It implies that the activity is fundamentally hard, and that your relative difficulties aren't just because of something about you. If your chances are slim, but no worse than anyone else's (or at least, no worse than anyone else's would be in your particular situation), does that help?

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from: anonymous
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 09:10 am (UTC)
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Dating sucks for poly people as well. ;)

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 10:01 am (UTC)
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I was still sulking when I came up with it, so I was mostly thinking in the terms of how impossibly hard it is to meet compatible people. Though I did notice the corollary that this might mean that difficulty dating is not because there's anything "wrong" with me just that it's hard.

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from: anonymous
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 11:49 am (UTC)
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<kosh>Yes.</kosh>

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 12:50 pm (UTC)
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the down side to that analysis though is that if it were something wrong with me, I could (in theory) do something about it.

If it's just fundamentally a difficult problem there is no solution

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from: anonymous
date: Jun. 11th, 2003 01:01 pm (UTC)
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If the problem isn't something with yourself (internal), then the problem must be something external*. Change something externally: where you go, who you hang out with, your friends, something external. If you hang out with people who drag you down, lose those people and find people who will lift you up---for example.


*Not something to do with you physically, but rather your location.

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