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Dec. 8th, 2002 | 07:45 pm

I have a theory why I have trouble maintaining friendships with people.

Reflecting on my life, it appears that one of the best indicators of how well I'm going to maintain a friendship with someone is wether or not the habits and conventions of my life bring me to spend time with them or keep me seperated. I usually spend time with the same people in the same way.

There are people who I think are really neat positive people and want to spend more time with them, yet I don't. I think because I don't frequent any place near them, so don't accidentally run into them. I don't regularly talk with them and so become increasingly intimidated by the idea of calling.

I wonder how I can program habits that allow me to maintain relationships with people.

Okay, I'd also like habits that put me into situations where I'm like to meet people I could date.

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wig

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from: wig
date: Dec. 9th, 2002 10:45 pm (UTC)
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There are people who I think are really neat positive people and want to spend more time with them, yet I don't... I don't regularly talk with them and so become increasingly intimidated by the idea of calling.

I used to find myself feeling like this sometimes, but when I found the courage to make the phone call, the fear and intimidation I felt tended to dissipate like the phantoms they are.

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Diane Trout

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from: alienghic
date: Dec. 12th, 2002 11:56 pm (UTC)
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Yes that's true... but... well okay, I could easily invent any number of excuses.

I frequently feel like I shouldn't bother other people with my presence, and so that's where the nervousness comes from. But also I'm just lazy and habitual and don't get around to it.

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